“My child has become a Mormon”
The father looks up wistfully from his porch swing. Another argument. Another angry outburst of frustration. It had been eleven years yesterday when his youngest son announced that he had joined the LDS church. And when he came to visit with his young family, he told himself that he would not bring up the subject. He would not confront his son. No, not this time. But the discussion swayed a direction in which he could not help but share his latest thoughts and concerns about Mormonism. His son had responded back in anger. “Why do you hate Mormons?” “Why can’t we just agree to disagree?” Not when eternity is at stake. Not when the eternal consequences are so grim.
A day planned of joyful family time turned grim and tense. The passing brake lights of his son’s minivan had already vanquished into the coming night. His wife was in the back with familiar tears falling upon clasped hands, begging God to please allow her boy to come home. “I wonder,” thought the father, “what he felt like.” The father in Jesus’ parable also waited for his prodigal son to come home. “Lord, I must place this into your hands. I have done all I can. Now, all I can do is wait and pray. Bring my son back to you, Lord. Bring him home.”
There is probably no greater passion, no greater concern than the e-mails and phone calls we receive than from concerned Christian parents who either have a child in the LDS Church or are considering being baptized as a Mormon. Guilt. Anger. Frustration. A myriad of emotions greet parents and family members as they wrestle with this issue. There are many reasons why a child raised in a Christian home would consider joining the LDS church. The theology and focus on family can be attractive. Maybe they were invited to attend an LDS stake house while a teenager. But a common reason occurs when a Christian begins dating a Mormon man or woman. The couple is torn because leaving Mormonism is very difficult. There is intense family pressure to stay in the LDS church. So, the couple is forces to choosing love over church membership which usually ends up with dramatic consequences.
There is no magic formula we provide for parents or family members of Mormons, except hope and a listening ear. There are certainly points and hints we can bring out, but in far too many cases, there comes a point in time when family members stop listening no matter what is said. But there is hope.
We have talked to many ex-Mormons about their long and arduous journey to the Christian faith. A common thread about each of their journey is that a seemingly insignificant event is what starts the ball rolling. Invited by a neighbor, who didn’t know they were Mormon, to a neighborhood Bible study. A little girl inviting to see her sing at her Sunday School Christmas concert. An act of genuine love and kindness with no strings attached. A random comment about our faith in Christ and what he has already done for our salvation. Coming out of Mormonism and into the freedom found only in Christ is a process that includes many sowing of seeds.
Many times we think of outreach or evangelism as a reaping ministry. We think of the trained evangelist blessed with the spiritual gift of evangelism as the only person who can carry out successful outreach ministry. But it goes much more than that. Cross-cultural outreach ministry is predominantly a sowing ministry. God’s Word bring people to faith, but the real heroes are not the ones performing the baptism, but the faithful few whom God used along the way.
My encouragement for you to day is to exercise your faith by prayerfully asking for discernment and to take advantage of opportunities the Lord may be giving you to sow seeds of faith with Mormons. In many ways, our seed plantings are not deliberate and prepared responses, but fruit-filled reactions prompted by the Spirit.
In all that we do and say as professing Christians, you can count on the fact that somebody will be listening and observing. But more importantly, God and his angels will know first the fruit produced by love that prompted many saints in Christ to assist a searching Mormon in their journey to the Christian faith. And when we come heaven, we will know our part when that converted LDS saint will say thank you.
But they will not be the only one.
Perhaps it is that loving father sitting on the porch swing watching his lost son drive away. Maybe that mother with the tear-strewn face who had been praying for years. With outstretched arms, they will welcome you with a heart-felt thanks in the role that God allowed you play in bringing their child to heaven. What a reunion that will be!